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"The wedding lasts a week. There is a dance and food and on the last day is the religious ceremony. So, on the last day, after he gives the ring, so then you could go sleep with him. But I didn't know what it meant. So when we slept, this was something terrible. I didn't know what has to go on. And I pushed him, pushed him, pushed him, he should leave me alone. I didn't want that. This was terrible to me. This is animal life, not human beings. You can laugh - how little I knew what life is, at that time. And I was bleeding and bleeding and bleeding, and I didn't know what to do. So, I went to a doctor and he examined me, and he said, 'Who did this to you? Who did you marry? Was it a soldier?' You understand what he thought. He thought my husband was a big man, a strong man, that he could do this to me. But he wasn't. He was little, and weak. a coward. But he could do that to me. And after, I went to my father. I said, 'before the wedding, he couldn 't touch me. He couldn't even hold my hand. And now, for this little ringele, for this little ringele on my finger, he could do that to me?' "My father, what could he say? He said nothing. He turned away. So, then I knew. So, this means, this is life."
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All Images and Text: Copyright by Bobby Pearl, 2005.